It has been quite awhile since my last update, but in this chaotic journey, no news is GOOD NEWS! I have finished the semester of school and despite having missed nearly 6 weeks due to complications and exhaustion, I still managed to get a B and B-, I got to spend Mother’s day with my husby and girls relaxing and buying much needed maternity clothes, and I am trying to find ways to occupy my free time as I am on continued work restriction, and will be for the remainder of the pregnancy.
May 13, I had another ultrasound and my IM was able to make it. She got to hear the heartbeats for the first time and see the babies moving all over the place!! They did all the measurements for Down Syndrome and the ultrasound tech said both babies looked great and healthy! They also did some blood work for more genetic testing and that was it. It was a quick and easy appointment and we didn’t see the doctor as she was out of town.
Over the past few weeks, I have “popped” more or less. There is definitely no mistaking my pregnancy and my belly is growing at an exponential rate! I now get a lot of questions about when my baby is due so I have kindly started replying “THEY are due in November, and I am a surrogate, so they are for another family.” I have had a lot of positive response and no unexpected questions…yet. I’m sure there will be that person who will catch me off guard, but I’ll tackle that hurdle when it arrives. I mostly get the comments about how big I am which, while expected, are seriously annoying. (Folks, I’m only going to get WAY, WAY bigger). I will be dedicating a post to PROPER PREGNANCY ETIQUETTE in the very near future. Obviously, people need to be educated.
I have also begun to experience pregnancy symptoms I was not expecting as I did not have them with my girls. I am developing varicose veins, I am HOT ALL THE TIME to the point where I sweat more than usual, and I had heartburn for the first time in my life! I knew I would have different symptoms this time as each pregnancy is different, I’m a surrogate, and I’m having twins this go around. In order to combat these symptoms I will be investing in a few good pairs of support pantyhose, I keep all the fans running in my house and try to wear light and loose fitting clothing, I have purchased a special pillowcase that is supposed to keep my pillow cooler (I’ll let you know if it works!), and I now have a healthy supply of Tums in my medicine cabinet.
Today, we had another appointment. I am 16 weeks, 6 days. I had an ultrasound this morning and both IPs were able to make it. It was really nice to get to catch up with both of them as my IM has had a few more treatments since I last saw her, she looks AMAZING by the way, and I haven’t seen the IF since my last appointment with CCRM. My IM has been responding exceptionally well to her treatments and her tumor has gotten significantly smaller, which is fantastic news! I’m still hoping she will do a guest blog as soon as she is feeling up to it.
Both babies looked fantastic and are growing so quickly. They are both head down and laying parallel to one another so their heads and feet are right next to each other, which explains why I’ve mostly been feeling movement on one side. They were quite active for the ultrasound as well. Then, the big reveal happened and we were able to find out the genders of both babies.
Ladies and gentlemen, we are expecting a BOY…and a GIRL!!! My IPs were thrilled as that is exactly what they were hoping for! (Remember, my IM had a dream that she was holding a boy and a girl. She was right!) I will admit, after finding out Twin A was a boy, my heart skipped a little because I knew they wanted a little girl and I was so relieved and excited when Twin B was announced as a girl!! I teared up seeing them so excited and celebrating. The emotions are so much different when helping someone else grow their family. It’s truly an incredible experience.
I returned in the afternoon to meet with the doctor. She said the babies looked beautiful and healthy. She recommended the support hose, reaffirmed I will be staying on work restriction throughout the pregnancy, and explained that my hot flashes, exhaustion, inability to get comfortable at night, and nipple tenderness are all part of a normal pregnancy and hormones. Every single second is still so worth it and I consider myself so lucky to get to experience it all.